If you are in an abusive situation and unsure of how to navigate gaining safety, consider building a safety plan. A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, tell friends and family about the abuse, take legal action and more. If you are in immediate danger, call the BrightHouse Crisis Hotline.

The Kansas VINE system is a service through which victims of crime can use the telephone or Internet to search for information regarding the custody status of their offender and to register to receive telephone and e-mail notification when the offender's custody status changes. The VINE toll-free number for the Kansas VINE system is (866) 574.8463. This service is provided to assist victims of crime who have a right to know about their offender's custody status.

Safety Planning Checklist: 

A good safety plan will have all the vital information you need, be tailored to your unique situation, and will help walk you through different scenarios.


Although some of the things that you outline in your safety plan may seem obvious, it’s important to remember that in moments of crisis your brain doesn’t function the same way as when you are calm. When adrenaline is pumping through your veins it can be hard to think clearly or make logical decisions about your safety. Having a safety plan can help you think more clearly.

Safety During an Argument

  • Stay in an area with an exit and avoid letting the other person get between you and the exit.

  • Practice plan for leaving home safely.

  • Avoid rooms with weapons, such as the kitchen.

  • Have emergency 911 phones hidden throughout the home.

  • Tell trustworthy neighbors about the violence. Ask them to call the police if they hear or see any disturbance.

  • Devise a code word or signal to use with your children, family, friends, and trustworthy neighbors when you need the police.

  • Trust your instincts and judgment. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger

Safety When Preparing to Leave

  • Establish financial independence - open savings and credit card accounts in your name only and instruct institutions that your partner is not to have access.

  • Leave money, extra keys, copies of important documents, extra medicine and clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.

  • Determine safe people you can stay with and plan leaving with.

  • Review and rehearse your safety plan.

  • Keep a packed bag at a trusted relative or friend’s home.

  • Plan where you will go if you leave.

Safety in Your Own Home

  • Change the locks on your doors. (Landlords are legally obligated to change locks within 24 hrs. if you are experiencing DV).

  • Install locks on your windows. (Renters check with your landlord first.)

  • Discuss and practice a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.

  • Inform your children’s schools or caregivers who has permission to pick up your children.

  • Inform neighbors and landlord your partner no longer lives with you and to call the police if they see him or her near your home.

Safety with a Protection Order

  • Keep your protective order on you at all times, and give a copy to a trusted neighbor, friend or family member.

  • Call the police if your abuser violates the protective order.

  • Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away.

  • Inform family, friends, neighbors and health care providers that you have a protection order in effect.

Safety on the Job and in Public

  • Decide who at work you will inform of your situation, including building security.

  • Provide a photo of your abuser for quick identification.

  • Screen your telephone calls.

  • Devise a safety plan for leaving work, such as exiting through the back door.

  • Have someone escort you when leaving and wait with you until you are safely en route.

  • Use a variety of routes to go home.

  • Rehearse what you would do if something happened while going home, such as picking a safe place to go.

  • Create a safety routine when you arrive home: checking your house and property, checking in with someone to let them know you are safe, etc.

Your Safety and Emotional Health

  • Identify who you can rely on for emotional support and call our 24-hour crisis line at 620.663.2522 or toll free 1.800.701.3630.

  • If you must communicate with your abuser, determine the safest way to do so and avoid being alone with them.

  • Advocate for yourself and your needs. Find people you can safely and openly talk to and ask for help. You are not alone, and you do not have to go through this by yourself.

  • Consider counseling and support groups that directly address your experiences and needs.

  • Find ways to care for yourself: exercise, make time to relax, create a safe environment, do things you enjoy, get as much support as you can.

Internet and Computer Safety

  • Abusers may also track your activity and whereabouts through your cell phone; if you think there a chance this may be happening, take your phone into your provider, Apple store, or Best Buy Geek Squad and have it thoroughly checked.

  • If your phone has been compromised and you get a new one, do NOT update your phone from the Cloud.

Checklist: What You Should Take When You Leave:

Legal Papers

  • Copy of Protection Order (PFA/PFS)

  • Lease, rental agreement, house deed

  • Car registration

  • Health and life insurance cards

  • Divorce papers

  • Custody papers


  • Driver’s license

  • Children’s birth certificates

  • Social security card

  • Self-sufficiency/disability identification


  • Medical records for you and your children

  • Work permits/green card

  • VISA


  • House and car keys

  • Medications

  • Valuables, photos, etc.

  • Address book

  • Phone card/safety cell phone

  • Clothes, blankets, small toys for children

  • Clothes, hygiene necessities, etc. for yourself